Anger is a normal human emotion. We all get angry sometimes. But when your child starts showing irritable petulant feelings, responds sadistically or turns violent; it is time to become alert.
All these are signs of extreme anger and if left unchecked, they can affect the overall ranking of your child’s academic life.
Don’t leave your child at the mercy of uncontrolled feelings. Show him/her the way to a physically and mentally healthy lifestyle. Adopting positive ways of dealing with your child’s anger instead of beating or shouting at him/her is proven to be helpful for young individuals.
Domestic disruption makes children aggressive and disobedient, both at home and school. Harmony among parents will always have a positive affect on children’s emotions.
In our society, it is the mother who is held responsible for bringing harmony among all members of the family. It is she who contributes the most in bringing peace and love to the home environment. But it has also often been seen that some mothers hold way too high expectations from their children. But she should realise that it is not necessary for the child to get the highest marks in exams. The ability of learning is not equal in all children. Parents’ disappointment over their child’s performance can hurt him/her in so many ways.
It should be remembered that too much criticism over your child’s academic performance may give birth to rebellious feelings within him/her. Avoid doing that while also not allowing the other members of your family to ridicule your child. It injures the child’s self esteem and being admonished in front of classmates, brings the confidence down.
It is indeed difficult to keep the child away from violent scenes like those shown on TV these days. As we all know, such scenes cause a negative impact on the child’s thinking.
One should have patience to deal with the child’s anger.
Try and spare time from your busy schedule to divert the youngster’s attention. It is a good idea to arrange entertaining activities, which enhance healthy physical and mental development. Psychiatrists suggest painting pictures, getting involved in other creative activities, playing music, cycling, team sports and taking long walks in the park, which may prove to be ideal activities to help relax the child.
Leaving an angry child unaccompanied for a long time can result in loneliness and nervousness. Children feel safe and secure when they are near their mother. When parents take interest in their child’s school activities; arrange parties for them to invite their friends over besides planning other social activities, they are instigating positive behavior in their children.
Encourage the child to maintain a diary in which he or she can pen daily activities and experiences. This may prove useful in knowing those events of the day that trigger anger.
Mothers are advised to use the power of maternal love to communicate with their children. Be a good friend to your child so you can build a better relationship with him/her. Share the pleasant and unpleasant moments in school, the likes and dislikes of your children while showing your concern over resolving any difficulty that the child might be going through at the moment.
Many children are afraid of losing their mother’s attention soon after the birth of a new sibling, finding it rather uneasy to adjust with the change. Mothers too often also make the mistake of keeping the older child away from the newborn. It might lead to disappointment and anger in the older one who may decide on taking revenge from the baby.
With little care and attention, parents can get rid of their child’s anger and related nonconstructive feelings.