Why men can't apologise

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Why is sorry such a hard word for many men to say ?
Dr Pam Spurr, relationships expert
Doesn't it make you feel better when someone gives
a heartfelt apology? So much meaning is contained
in those two words “I'm sorryâ€￾; they're verbal honey.
You know they're sorry that they hurt or upset you.
They've given it thought. They want you to feel better.
These things are important to smooth over the bumps
in a relationship.

So why is sorry such a tough word for many men to say?
A friend, Tanya, 41, had a typical experience after a row
caused by her husband. He was often tardy, and the last
straw was him being late for her best friend's 40th birthday
party. Tanya was left hanging around in the foyer of the
hotel where the party was being held.

Robert dashed in, saying that he'd explain later. He gave
Tanya a hug and, seeing that her face was like thunder,
whisked her into the private party room. War broke out
when they got home. Tanya was incensed that he just
couldn't say sorry. Robert explained his delay. But still no
apology.When Tanya challenged him about this he gave
her a throwaway reply.

Men may know they're wrong about something but often
loathe saying they're sorry. They think it's enough to
explain what happened, or why they did something.
But saying sorry makes them feel a bit pathetic.
They see it as a weakness, not a strength.

So try, if you wish, once you've heard his explanation,
to get a real apology but it may well lead to a second fight.
You'll end up sorry you tried to squeeze that sorry out of him.