Someone asked a very wise person once, â€œHow will I know when Iâ€™ve met the right person for me long-term?â€ said Tracey Cox.
His answer was this: â€œAsk yourself: if I had to become someone else, would I love to be this person or run a mile?â€
Not only is this a simple, effective way to sort out the flings from the serious relationship options, new US research suggests itâ€™s a highly sensible question to ask for other reasons.
1. The good ways your partner changes you
- Being loved makes you happier. Obvious stuff but something people often forget â€“ especially when judging single friends. Remember, he/she is someone you go home and vent to, whoâ€™ll give you a cuddle at the end of the day.
- You think for two, not one. Loving someone else means you consider the effect on them for all major decisions.
- You take more risks when you feel safe. Healthy relationships promote self-growth, say psychologists. If you feel loved and secure, youâ€™re far more likely to try something new like start up a business or try something creative.
- They make you see yourself more clearly. Partners tend to be a lot more honest with each other. So if youâ€™ve got an annoying habit like talking over people, being negative or have a touch of the know-it-allâ€™s, theyâ€™ll not only be the ones to point it out but the person youâ€™re most likely to listen to.
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2. The not so good ways your partners changes you
- Their problems become your problems. When youâ€™re close to someone and theyâ€™re struggling with something, you experience their pain as your own. Same goes if theyâ€™re happy go-getters and achieve their dreams. Choose a more serene, balanced person and thatâ€™s what your life will be.
- You pick up their bad habits. Not only can you pick up your partnerâ€™s physical bad habits (sleep later, drink more, eat more), emotional habits are also infectious. Study showed if your partner is a suspicious person, you become less trusting. If theyâ€™re not terribly social, you can lose interest in your own friends â€“ and lose valuable communication skills like making conversation and reading body language which need practice.