Green Signals: She Is Interested In YOu

sheeza · Extreme Poster Joined: 06 Oct 2007 Posts: 2487 Gender:

You and a pretty redhead are tucked away in a corner table at that impossible-to-get-into new French bistro. And lo and behold, you notice she's laughing at your jokes, twirling her hair, and giving other crystal-clear signs she's into you. Or is she? Problem is, it can be hard to tell sometimes whether a woman is truly interested or just going through the motions. But luckily, there are plenty of ways to tell the difference. The signs below are the real deal.

She Keeps Freshening Up: If she's excusing herself to the toilet between courses, it's doubtful she has a weak bladder. Nope, more likely she's in there freshening up her makeup or making sure her hair is in place... all for you. "If she's into you, she'll be concerned with how she looks," says Alison James, author of the forthcoming Better Off Wed? Fling... or Ring: How to Know Which Finger to Give Him. "Or, if she's at the table, she'll be fixing her shirt or brushing her hair back, maybe checking that her bra strap isn't showing or adjusting her necklace—the kind of stuff you do when you're worried about your appearance."

Green Signals She Is Interested In YOu

She Asks About Your Family: "When a woman likes a man she doesn't want to get to know just him," says Jillian Straus, author of Unhooked Generation: The Truth About Why We're Still Single. "She wants to know about his family and friends—she's looking for clues about what life with him would be like." Indeed, especially if you've been set up or are on a blind date and know very little about each other, your relationship with your family says a lot about you—and a woman interested in you won't hesitate to probe. "I think family is very revealing about a person's personality," says Tina Andreadis, 35,. "If he's close with his family, it shows that he's probably a warm person who values relationships and who would want a family of his own. If I am not interested in him, I won't even ask because I just don't care."

She's Attentive: Let's put it this way: No matter how busy she is, she's not whipping out her BlackBerry if she's interested in what you have to say. "If she's not checking her watch, email or mobile phone, it's just one more sign that she's paying attention to you," says James. "When you like a guy, you're hanging on his every word. When you don't, you're distracted easily." Same goes for any preoccupations she has with the immediate environment, whether she's people-watching or admiring the restaurant décor or even the food. If she's saying things like, "This restaurant is beautiful. Hey, doesn't that girl over there look like Cat Deeley?" she may be enjoying herself, but not necessarily because you're there.

She's Touchy-Feely: If you find your date engaging in a little physical contact along with witty banter, chances are you've made a very good impression. From tapping your knee to emphasise a point or touching your forearm to get your attention, if a woman's attracted to you, she won't hesitate to reach out and let you know. Megan, 35, from London, employs this trick with guys she finds attractive. "I pretend to steady myself when I don't need to be steadied," she says. "When I'm climbing onto a bar stool, I'll grab onto his shoulder or leg when I clearly don't need to," she laughs.

Green Signals She Is Interested In YOu

The Date Lasts Longer Than You Expected: Ask any woman desperate to wind down a date, and she'll tell you she skips dessert or declines an after-dinner drink. Naturally, then, if she's having a great time and doesn't want to see you go, she'll gladly take the waiter's suggestion and try the chocolate cake, or join you at a wine bar for a nightcap. And if you've agreed to meet for drinks and after a few cocktails she takes you up on your offer of dinner? That's a bright green light, my friend. "Only if I'm into the guy will I agree to go to dinner if he suggests it on a ‘meet for drinks' date," says Diana, a 38-year-old from Bath. "If I'm meeting a guy for a drink and I'm not into him, I'm definitely not going to agree to get food after."

So now that you know the signs that she's really enjoying your time together, use them! Ask her for another date, have a goodnight hug or smooch... and things should move in a most positive direction.

harshad · **Posted:** Nov 29, 2008 **Post subject:**

Oh Great...........

Solcius · **Posted:** Nov 29, 2008 **Post subject:**

ya rite now thats something that does not work out quite often

chandoo · **Posted:** Nov 29, 2008 **Post subject:**

Astir · **Posted:** Dec 27, 2008 **Post subject:**

Interesting

dkumar_101 · Just Born Joined: 24 Jan 2009 Posts: 1 Gender:

Yeah ... but is there any such girl with such signs on this planet?

suchitra · **Posted:** Jan 24, 2009 **Post subject:**

Quite impressive!